I am sitting at the library computer with tears on my face but with no shame.  I will smile later.  I did get a chuckle from Grandma's words about the more you cry, the less you pee. Alan has sent red flowers for us both and I hope the colors and sweet thoughts can permeate to that place in time which we can not truly understand. I will not be able to attend the services, but I will wear red that day and give private thoughts for you both.  You are both so honorable and such beautiful people. Soar, Nola, Soar!!!!